“I Am Muslim & I want To Die” Part 2 – Being Your Own Hero

By Khalida Jalili

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Have an action plan ready for whenever suicidal thoughts cross your mind. Since suicidal thoughts are triggered by various reasons and everyone’s situation is unique, there is no “one solution for all”. So write your own plan on a sticky note and place it on the fridge, the wall, your work desk, computer desktop, or anywhere you’ll notice it.

Action tips include:

Seeking Emergency Help

Always remember: Seeking help isn’t a weakness; it is a courageous act. In case you are about to commit suicide, immediately ring the emergency number in your country. If you are in the U.S., call 911. Or you may call the (USA) national confidential, toll-free suicide hotline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). You may also visit your nearest emergency room at a local hospital. Someone will be there to help you.

Informing Family, Friends, and Teachers

Family, friends, and teachers can make a huge difference. Even if you believe otherwise, truth is that they care about you. So ask them to help you save yourself from yourself.

Seeking Professional Help

It is very important to consult with your doctor to find a suitable therapist, social worker, or a counselor. Muhammad (ﷺ) sought advice from others, so we must not shy from doing so too. Just as medical doctors are a means to curing physical illnesses such as cancer, mental health professionals are a means to curing psychological (and even spiritual) illnesses such as depression. This individual can also help you with your action plan.

Making Wudu

Wudu not only washes our sins, it refreshes our mood too (Try it!).

Hearing What Allah Has to Say to You

The Quran was sent to address everyone – including you and me – so read it to find solutions and comfort. The Quran is also a cure, so recite, recite, and recite until you feel better.

Finding Tranquility in Salah

Never miss your Salah because not only does it define us as Muslims, it is also the first means to finding solace and receiving answers to our supplications. Allah says: “O you who have believed, seek help through patience and prayer. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.” (Al-Baqarah; 2:153)

 

Embracing Healthy Energy

Go to the park for a walk (Physical exercise is a great way to reduce stress!), take deep breathes (inhale through your nose and exhale through the mouth), enjoy the weather (even if it’s “bad” weather), focus on nature’s beauty, and eat your favorite healthy food.

 

Writing Your Thoughts Down

Sometimes, simply penning your feelings onto paper and thereby releasing negative emotions can be a great relief!

 

Ensuring Protection

When you really don’t know what to do except cry, recite supplications for seeking refuge from shaitan and for forgiveness. Morning and evening supplications are also a great shield, so don’t forget at least a few of them. Two of my favorites include:

Bismillahil-ladhi laa yadurru ma’asmihee shay-un fel-ardhi wa laa fes-samaa’ wa huwas-samee’ul-‘aleem – “In the name of Allah with whose name nothing is harmed on earth nor in the heavens and He is The All-Seeing, The All-Knowing” (Hisnul-Muslim).

HasbiyAllahu ‘alaiihi tawakkaltu wa huwa rabbul-‘arshil-‘azheem – “Allah is Sufficient for me, none has the right to be worshipped except Him, upon Him I rely and He is Lord of the exalted throne” (Hisnul-Muslim).

 

Setting Goals

Our ultimate purpose in life is to worship our Creator. Set a few goals with the intention to please Allah by improving yourself and your community. Help others so that Allah may help you.

 

Eliminating Means

Make sure you have extremely reduced access to any lethal means (this should be the first step, really).

Although suicide may seem like the only solution for you, I assure you it is not. Why choose to end your life in exchange for misery when you can make your hardships a means to elevating yourself so high in Jannah that you end up in Al-Firdous, where you can have whatever your heart wishes and much more, in shaa Allah! May Allah grant us all a good ending. Ameen.

Great Suicide Survivor Stories:

  1. http://muslimmatters.org/2015/01/28/walking-away-from-suicide-part-1-of-3/
  2. How I stayed Alive When My Brain Was Trying To Kill Me – One Person’s Guide To Suicide Prevention (Susan Rose Blauner)

Helpful Resources:

  1. Free 24/7 Life-line: 1-800-273-TALK (8255)
  2. http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/
  3. https://arrajaathehope.wordpress.com/
  4. http://naseeha.org/
  5. http://nisahelpline.com/

Visit our blog to read the first part of this series.

2 Comments

  1. Pingback: “I Am Muslim & I Want To Die” Part 1 – Shedding Light on Suicide | Ar-Rajaa The Hope Counseling Service

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