Allow your Heart to Heal

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By Bint Salman

You were in a long-term relationship with this person, you had always fantasized him/her as your life partner but things went the other way around estranging you two for a life time.It left a broken, miserable you. You kept crying and weeping end on but nothing improved for you and  you felt trapped in your situation.
A great deal of time has passed by yet you still aren’t able to wipe out his/her memories, you simply need to ask yourself  WHY?


Is it because:

– you stalk his/her facebook/ twitter profile daily?
-You try to find innocent reasons to communicate with him/her?
-You visit the same place where you know you could  bump into him/her?
-You are curious to know about his/her whereabouts and inquire about him from his/her close ones?
-You deliberately dwell on the old pleasant memories? That’s a bad idea, try to get rid of the thoughts by getting yourself engaged in some interesting work.
– You want so badly to be with him/her that you show your displeasure with fate.Remember just because you are missing someone or want to be with someone doesn’t mean you can live together.
-You aren’t grateful to Allah for taking you out of the haraam relationship and being your Savior.
-You haven’t yet filled your heart completely with love of Allah that it’s weak and still possesses a large area , occupied by your past love.

So avoid all of these things, MOVE ON, and STRIVE to make Allah your only True Love…

Ibn Taymiyah (Rahimahullaah) said:

If the heart loves Allaah alone and is sincerely devoted to Him, it will not even think of loving anyone else in the first place, let alone falling in love. When a heart falls in love, that is due to the lack of love for Allaah alone. Hence because Yoosuf loved Allaah and was sincerely devoted to Him, he did not fall into the trap of love, rather Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“Thus it was, that We might turn away from him evil and illegal sexual intercourse. Surely, he was one of Our chosen, (guided) slaves.” [Yoosuf 12:24]

-Set aims for yourself and busy yourself in pursuing those so you don’t get time to entertain the old memories of the time you spent together.

-Look up for a prospective spouse and fix your marriage if you are capable of doing so because marriage brings blessings from Allah (Subhaanahu wa Ta’ala).

Getting over a loss is not difficult for  humans because over a period of time we forget things and we simply stop caring about the past. However one definitely needs to exert constant effort against the factors which stop him  from letting go of those memories and work towards a better, healthier future free from taints of the past.

When your are at your worst

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By Bint Salman

When you are at your worst and you feel as if your heart will almost burst.

The depressing thoughts come in train and make tears fall just like droplets of rain…

You walk around wearing a skin so think

leaving an impression that nothing has happened that could reveal your poor nick ,

Then your eyes fail restraint and the tears stream down uncontrolled…

Grabbing your aching chest you find a spot where you search for solace undisturbed…

Your heart fires with a velocity high, all the complaints which you make end on..

And the dua from a heart so broken goes straight up without any barrier on…

The soul talk with Creator works wonders, through the pain it makes you get up after the surrender..

It brings you back to the sweetness of the feeling..

Were you ever alone with his words acting on your wounds causing gentle healing?

‘So surely with difficulty is ease…

Surely with difficulty is ease..

Come Back!

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By Umm ‘Aisha

Sometimes all of a sudden- life changes, from being blessed to being wretched, from being at the top of the world to becoming down-trodden. All of a sudden we start facing problems in every single aspect of our life, everything we try- we fail in it. Be it physical, spiritual, familial, social, economical, psychological- you name it.

All of a sudden we see people who once loved us- are now betraying, the business we were experts at- is severely challenged, the family which was a support- has left us on our own, the health we adored- is now worn-out, the beauty we owned- has departed, leaving us ugly. All of a sudden we- who were looked up by people are now looked down upon- ALL OF A SUDDEN?!

How come is it ‘all of a sudden’?!

We start questioning the purpose of us- being alive, as if we don’t deserve life anymore. We don’t find any aim to live up for; we lose our passions- and start drowning into the episodes of Depression- the insomnias- the low appetite- the lack of interest in all meaningful things; crying and blaming become our new personality and we end up becoming introverts.

The cycle goes on until we wake up! Wake up from the deceptive sleep, and try to find out the actual WHY!

After failing in all our efforts, tired of  always ending-up in nowhere, when all resources eventually back-out and we are in complete darkness of despair, we feel the Only open Door- that One Door which we have forgotten through-out our struggle. The Door we should have knocked in the beginning. And then we realize the truth of: There is no Might except with Al-Qadir, there is no way except with Al-Haadi, there is no comforter except The One who removes all the evil, there is no healer except Ash-Shaafi, there is no business and job except with Ar-Razzaq, and there is no love except with Al-Wadood.

And we find out the actual answer of our WHYS:

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And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed, he will have a depressed life, and We will gather him on the Day of Resurrection blind.” [20:124]

Isn’t this true? Isn’t it the ‘actual reason’? Isn’t it the correct answer to all our Whys?

Yes! It is.

But it doesn’t end here- it doesn’t increase the guilt and leaves us to commit suicide. It wasn’t because He s.w.t hates us, it wasn’t because He had disowned us when we went away from Him and it wasn’t because He had stopped loving us like the rest of the world. For He is our only Well-wisher and He explains the reason why we went into that depressive mode- why didn’t He help us out of our problems and why He wanted us to fall in all those pains-6_42

   

  And We have already sent (messengers) to nations before you, then We seized them with poverty and hardship that perhaps they might humble themselves (to Us). [6:42]

So now we know that all those hardships were to make us humble- to make us remember that only purpose for which we were created- to make us go back to the One we came from and to make us say:

إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ

Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return. [2:156]

Lets then go back and repent- and cry- and feel ashamed on forgetting Him, on forgetting the purpose of our being and lets witness His Mercy again, lets enjoy His countless blessings once again and lets see how much He cares for us and how much He loves us. And also- lets not forget Him again. In sha ALLAH.

 اسْتَغْفِرُوا رَبَّكُمْ إِنَّهُ كَانَ غَفَّارًا                

يُرْسِلِ السَّمَاءَ عَلَيْكُم مِّدْرَارًا 

وَيُمْدِدْكُم بِأَمْوَالٍ وَبَنِينَ وَيَجْعَل لَّكُمْ جَنَّاتٍ وَيَجْعَل لَّكُمْ أَنْهَارًا

Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is ever a Perpetual Forgiver.

He will send [rain from] the sky upon you in [continuing] showers

And give you increase in wealth and children and provide for you gardens and provide for you rivers. [71:10-12]

And we shouldn’t worry thinking: if ALLAH will accept us back or not- for if we are alive and if our breaths are intact, He is waiting for our ‘come-back’, for our repentance and He is ready to welcome us with all His Rehmah and blessings.

O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. [Hadith Qudsi]