Let us connect to the words of ALLAH (Subhaanahu wa Ta’ala) more so in this month, which is indeed The Month of Qur’an!
Let us connect to the words of ALLAH (Subhaanahu wa Ta’ala) more so in this month, which is indeed The Month of Qur’an!
The Status of the Woman before Islaam:
What is meant “before Islaam” here is the period known as Jaahiliyyah (Days of Ignorance), which the Arabs used to live in specifically and the people of the whole world in general. This was when the people did not have any Messengers amongst them and they were void of any guidance. And as is stated in the hadeeth, “Allaah looked at them – both Arabs and Non-Arabs – and hated them, except for some remnants from the People of the Book (who stayed upon the true message).”
In most cases, the woman of this time period lived under critical conditions – especially those in the Arab societies, where they used to hate it when a girl was born. So amongst the Arabs were those who would bury their daughter while she was still alive until she died below the earth. And amongst them were those who let them live only to find a life of humiliation and degradation. Allaah says: “And when news of the birth of a female child was brought to any of them, his face would become dark and filled with grief. He hides himself from the people because of the evil that he has been informed of. Shall he keep her with dishonor or bury her in the earth? Certainly, evil is their decision.” [Surah An-Nahl: 58-59]
And Allaah says: “And when the female child who was buried in the ground will be questioned – for what sin was she killed?” [Surah At-Takweer: 8-9]
The word maw’oodah refers to the baby girl that was buried alive and left to die inside the earth. And if she was spared from being buried alive and allowed to live, then indeed she found herself living a life of degradation. This is since she was not allowed to inherit any portion of her relative’s estate no matter how much money he had and regardless of if she was suffering from poverty and dire need. The reason for this is because they would make the inheritance specific for men in exclusion of women. In fact, she would be distributed as part of her deceased husband’s estate, just as his money would be distributed in inheritance!
And there would be found a score of women living under one man, since they would not put any limits to the number of wives they could marry. So they wouldn’t show any concern for what occurred to the women as a result of that, such as living under cramped conditions, inconveniences and injustice.
The Status of the Woman after Islaam:
But when Islaam came, it uplifted these injustices from the woman and returned her honor and self-esteem in humanity back to her. Allaah says: “O mankind, indeed We created you from a male and a female.” [Surah Al-Hujuraat: 13]
So Allaah mentions that she is the partner of man in the origin of humanity and likewise, she is partners with man in terms of being rewarded or punished for actions performed. Allaah says:“Whoever does good deeds, – whether male or female – while he or she is a true believer, to him We will give a good life and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do.” [Surah An-Nahl: 97]
Allaah says: “So that Allaah may punish the male and female hypocrites and the male and female polytheists.” [Surah Al-Ahzaab: 73]
And Allaah made it forbidden to consider a woman as a possession to be inherited from her dead husband’s estate, as He says: “O you who believe, you are forbidden to inherit women against their will.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 19]
So Allaah gave her independence in her individuality, such that she became one who can inherit as opposed to an object of inheritance. And Allaah gave the woman a right in the inheritance of her relative’s wealth. Allaah says: “There is a share for men and a share for women from what is left by their parents and close relatives, whether the property be small or large – a legal share.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 7]
And Allaah says: “Allaah commands you as regards your children’s inheritance: to the male a portion equal to that of two females. If there are only daughters, two or more, their share is two-thirds of the inheritance; if only one, her share is a half.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 11]
And this goes as well for the other texts that state a woman can inherit whether she be a mother, a daughter, a sister or a wife.
In the area of marital affairs, Allaah limited a husband to marrying the maximum of four wives, on the condition that he treats all of his wives fairly and equally according to his ability. And He obligated to the husbands to live with them in kindness, as He says: “And live with them honorably.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 19]
And He made the dowry her right and He commanded that it be given to her in full except for that which she permits from her own good will. Allaah says: “And give to the women their dowry with a good heart. But if they, out of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, take it and enjoy it without any fear of harm.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 4]
And Allaah made her the caretaker, commanding good and forbidding evil in the household of her husband – and the leader over her children. The Prophet (sallAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) said: “A woman is the guardian of her husband’s household and she will be asked (on the Day of Judgement) concerning those under her care.” Also, Allaah made it obligatory for the husband to spend on her and to clothe her in a good manner.
What the Enemies of Islaam and their Offshoots want today from their stripping the Woman of her Honor and rights:
Indeed the enemies of Islaam – rather the enemies of humanity – today, from the disbelievers, hypocrites and those who have a disease in their hearts are enraged about what the Muslim woman has achieved from honor, glory and chastity in Islaam. This is because the enemies of Islaam from the disbelievers, hypocrites and those who have a disease in their hearts – they want from the woman that she serve as a trap by which they can lure and catch those with weak Eemaan and those who have perverted natures, after having fulfilled their depraved desires from her. Allaah says: “But those who follow their lusts wish that you should deviate tremendously away.” [Surah An-Nisaa: 27]
And those who have a disease in their hearts among the Muslims want the woman to be a cheap commodity exhibiting herself to those people of lustful desires and devilish inclinations. They want her to serve as an open commodity before their eyes so that they may find entertainment in her beautiful appearance or perhaps they may make her do something far worse than that.
This is why they expend great efforts in trying to make the woman go out of her home so that she can participate with men in their jobs – working side by side with them. Or that she can serve and tend to men as a nurse in the hospital or a flight attendant on an airplane or a teacher or professor in mixed non-segregated schools Or that she be an actress in the theatres or a singer or a broadcaster on the various forms of media – exposing her face and enticing men by her voice and appearance.
And the immoral magazines have taken pictures of young girls that are looking provocative and naked as a means for promoting and marketing their magazines. And some businessmen and companies have taken these pictures also as a means for promoting their product, such that they place these pictures in their advertisements and exhibits.
These evil actions are meant to distract the woman from her real and true duty, which is in the home. And this forces the husbands to hire female servants to raise their children and take care of the affairs of their households, which results in much mischief and great evil.
However, we don’t restrict a woman from working outside of her home, so long as she abides by the following guidelines:
1. She must have a need for doing this work or the community she lives in requires her to do this job, such that there cannot be found any man that can do the job.
2. She should do this after fulfilling the job she has at home, which is her primary job.
3. This job must be in an environment of women only, such as her teaching women (only) or doctoring and nursing female patients. And her work must be separate from men.
4. Likewise, there is nothing that restricts her from learning the affairs of her Religion – in fact she is obligated to do this. And there is nothing preventing her from teaching about the aspects of her Religion, so long as there is a need for that and her teaching is held in an environment of (only) women. And there is no harm in her attending classes in a masjid and so on, while being consistent in that and segregated from men. This can be seen from the women in the beginning of Islaam (i.e. the Sahaabiyaat), in that they would work and study and attend the masaajid.
Source: Tanbeehaat ‘alaa Ahkaam takhtassu bil-Mu’minaat (pg. 6-11)
Taken From – Invitation To Islaam
1) It is important to note that the bricks and mortar of your home do not become “possessed” nor do they become “holy” – the shayateen don’t have anything against your house as an object! They will cause problems to affect you and your children – both psychological and physical.
2) Therefore, the most important part of protecting your house isyour level of emaan, your aqeedah and your adherence to the sunnah – the closer you become to Allah, the more you follow the sunnah; the less the shayateen will be able to affect you. And Allah’s Aid is sought.
3) Recite Surat Al Baqarah in your home at least once every 3 days. This can be done in a number of ways. You can either recite it in one go and then recite it again after three days or you can split the recitation over three days to make it easier for yourself.
Note: It is NOT sufficient to listen to a recorded recitation of Surat al Baqarah and the scholars have spoken clearly on this issue – the sura must be recited. If you are a revert or cannot recite clearly then ask someone to recite it for you while you learn, or at the very least, then listen to it once every three days. BUT remember that this is ONLY for those who cannot recite, it is not a reason for us to become lazy. If you want the protection, then recite it.
4) There should be no pictures or statues on display in your home of any sort, this includes digital photo frames.
Where the angels of mercy do not enter, the shayateen will congregate in that area.
5) There should be no music or movies being watched in your home – these are vices from shaytaan and you are literally inviting the devils into your home if you listen to or watch these things.
6) Enter the home with your right foot and say Bismillah and when you eat say Bismillah.
7) If the shayateen are causing problems in your home, do NOT curse them, rather say Bismillah.
8) Close your doors and windows and say Bismillah when doing so, particularly when it’s dark.
9) There should be no taweez in your home whatsoever – this is shirk and it will be an open door for shayateen to enter into your home and cause havoc. If you have a taweez see my previous posts for information on how to destroy them.
10) Perform a lot of dhikr and extra prayers in your home.
The dead live in graveyards, don’t make your home a graveyard.
11) Make the adhaan in your home, if possible, for each of the five daily prayers.
12) Take some water in a spray bottle and recite the following – Sura Fatiha x 7 / Ayatul Kursi x 7 / Last two verses of surat al Baqarah x 3 / Ikhlas x 7 / Falaq x 7 / Nas x 7. After each sura, spittle into the water. Take this water and spray into the corners of each room. Don’t spray in the toilets.
You can do this morning and evening. This is from experience and can be left out if you wish.
13) Keep your home clean and hygienic, smelling good. The devils dwell in filthy places.
14) Make a lot of duaa and give in charity, seeking to come closer to Allah.
15) Have patience. The shayateen will try to put you off or intimidate you but if you are patient and perseverant then they will realise that their attempts are not working and they will stop.
16) You should perform ruqya over yourself. Method of self-ruqya is given here.
Ultimately, Allah knows best and ALL protection is from Him. Turn to Allah and make your religion sincerely for Him. He will protect you and shower blessings upon you.
By Umm ‘Aisha
Today is not an ordinary hot day- today is the day when the sun is standing on my head literally. It’s too near-just a few feet away! My body seems to be on fire. I am dying of thirst but there is no sign of water, and how can there be any sign of water? All of it has gone- the oceans have been put on fire. The map has changed. I am hungry and tired- but with no hope to be fed today or to get any respite. I don’t know when I got up from my deep sleep, heard the cries and started running unintentionally. I don’t know what made everyone run in one single direction- maybe someone guided us to that direction or it was our instinct to run towards the point everyone else was running. Every one of us is caught by huge giants with harsh faces today. How can anyone dare question them about what is happening? Parched throats, hungry bellies, worn-out faces, tired muscles, broken legs and questioning eyes, yet no one to help us, not even with consoling words.
It’s strange that we all are in such a pathetic condition, yet no one is asking each other about what happened- what is going on- what are we doing here- where are we heading to- and where will we end up. Just cries, shouting, remorse, regret of what we had been doing all our lives! Our worldly statuses are not helping us today, our educational achievements are not appreciated today, our families! Ahh- where are they all? Why can’t I see my mother? My father? Brother? Where is my husband? And the apple of my eyes- my kids! I am crying my heart out now. The feeling of loss, the hopelessness and depression has reached its zenith. But why should I think about my family today? I don’t love them today. They distanced me from this truth.
I need some shade ya ALLAH! I need someone to cover me from this burning sun. Today I need you ya Rahman, I need your intense Mercy today! I am here calling you out- just as I did all my life. It was only You I called for help for all my worldly problems and you always helped me, ya Mughees! Aghisni, ya Mughees! I am dying from this hot sun. I am drowning in my sweat from head to toe. You see me in this trouble- your mercy is 99 times greater today Ya Raheem! Shower it on me. Cover me with your mercy!
You own this earth today! And the skies are wrapped in Your hands today! Your help I seek, Iyyaka na’budu wa iyyaka nasta’een, Yaa Rabbal Aalameen!
I am feeling more and more desperate- why is He not listening to me? He always helped me get out from sticky situations. I need Him today. Ya Rabbi!
I can hardly open my tearful eyes- they have swelled, they are itching, have gone red, I may lose my sight if I kept crying this way, Ya ALLAH! Keep my eyes alive to see your radiant face; I tried to keep them away from your haraam in your Dunya Ya Rabbi!
I can open them slightly now, they are helping me to see the faces around- I can see my husband standing ten steps away from me, but he has no interest to come to me and talk to me. I can see my son standing just there-right before my eyes- but he is busy, begging for ALLAH’s mercy for himself only. My parents, how I wished to see them on the Minbers of Noor this day because of me! Ahh- I loved to recite Quran-it was in my heart and also accompanied me in my grave- giving me Noor through-out. Where is it today?
I have to search for it- but it should have come to me all by itself now. All of a sudden, I see birds flock coming towards me, this umbrella- who sent this? Why is it coming towards me only?
Lo! Its Ale- Imran, I know its Ale Imran, and besides it- is Al-Baqarah- yes! My dear Al-Baqarah. I needed their company this day. I needed their shades the most this time. And there comes Maryam- I loved to call Surah Maryam as only ‘Maryam’. I knew it will come to help me this day. And there are more- more and more Surahs, my friends are here- I am feeling relieved now. ALLAH has listened to my Du’aas even on this day. He has kept His promise, He has fulfilled His words. Quran is my companion today. Its all that I have today- and its all that I need.
Ya Rabbi! How grateful I am to You for making Quran my companion in both worlds. How I wished to see You with the Quran in my heart. And you made it all come true. AlhamduLILLAHi Rabbil Aalameen.
Allahumma inee `abduka, ibnu `abdeka, ibnu amateka, naa `seyatee beyadika. Maa dhin feyya `hukmuka. `Ad lun feyya qa dhaa uka es aluka bekullis min huwalaka sammayta bi hi naf saka ae enzaltahu fee ketaa bika. Aw `alamtahu a `hadan min khalqika a wis ta’ thar ta behi fee `il mil ghaybe `an da ka en taj `alal qur’aaaaan na rabee’a qalbee, wa nuu ra `sadree wa jalaa a `husnee wathahaa ba hamee
O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety
By Umm ‘Aisha
Sometimes all of a sudden- life changes, from being blessed to being wretched, from being at the top of the world to becoming down-trodden. All of a sudden we start facing problems in every single aspect of our life, everything we try- we fail in it. Be it physical, spiritual, familial, social, economical, psychological- you name it.
All of a sudden we see people who once loved us- are now betraying, the business we were experts at- is severely challenged, the family which was a support- has left us on our own, the health we adored- is now worn-out, the beauty we owned- has departed, leaving us ugly. All of a sudden we- who were looked up by people are now looked down upon- ALL OF A SUDDEN?!
How come is it ‘all of a sudden’?!
We start questioning the purpose of us- being alive, as if we don’t deserve life anymore. We don’t find any aim to live up for; we lose our passions- and start drowning into the episodes of Depression- the insomnias- the low appetite- the lack of interest in all meaningful things; crying and blaming become our new personality and we end up becoming introverts.
The cycle goes on until we wake up! Wake up from the deceptive sleep, and try to find out the actual WHY!
After failing in all our efforts, tired of always ending-up in nowhere, when all resources eventually back-out and we are in complete darkness of despair, we feel the Only open Door- that One Door which we have forgotten through-out our struggle. The Door we should have knocked in the beginning. And then we realize the truth of: There is no Might except with Al-Qadir, there is no way except with Al-Haadi, there is no comforter except The One who removes all the evil, there is no healer except Ash-Shaafi, there is no business and job except with Ar-Razzaq, and there is no love except with Al-Wadood.
And we find out the actual answer of our WHYS:
“And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed, he will have a depressed life, and We will gather him on the Day of Resurrection blind.” [20:124]
Isn’t this true? Isn’t it the ‘actual reason’? Isn’t it the correct answer to all our Whys?
Yes! It is.
But it doesn’t end here- it doesn’t increase the guilt and leaves us to commit suicide. It wasn’t because He s.w.t hates us, it wasn’t because He had disowned us when we went away from Him and it wasn’t because He had stopped loving us like the rest of the world. For He is our only Well-wisher and He explains the reason why we went into that depressive mode- why didn’t He help us out of our problems and why He wanted us to fall in all those pains-
And We have already sent (messengers) to nations before you, then We seized them with poverty and hardship that perhaps they might humble themselves (to Us). [6:42]
So now we know that all those hardships were to make us humble- to make us remember that only purpose for which we were created- to make us go back to the One we came from and to make us say:
إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ
Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return. [2:156]
Lets then go back and repent- and cry- and feel ashamed on forgetting Him, on forgetting the purpose of our being and lets witness His Mercy again, lets enjoy His countless blessings once again and lets see how much He cares for us and how much He loves us. And also- lets not forget Him again. In sha ALLAH.
اسْتَغْفِرُوا رَبَّكُمْ إِنَّهُ كَانَ غَفَّارًا
يُرْسِلِ السَّمَاءَ عَلَيْكُم مِّدْرَارًا
وَيُمْدِدْكُم بِأَمْوَالٍ وَبَنِينَ وَيَجْعَل لَّكُمْ جَنَّاتٍ وَيَجْعَل لَّكُمْ أَنْهَارًا
Ask forgiveness of your Lord. Indeed, He is ever a Perpetual Forgiver.
He will send [rain from] the sky upon you in [continuing] showers
And give you increase in wealth and children and provide for you gardens and provide for you rivers. [71:10-12]
And we shouldn’t worry thinking: if ALLAH will accept us back or not- for if we are alive and if our breaths are intact, He is waiting for our ‘come-back’, for our repentance and He is ready to welcome us with all His Rehmah and blessings.
O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you. [Hadith Qudsi]
Listen up! all of you out there. Whatever be the nature of your distress don’t despair the mercy of Allaah, indeed His help is near. Allaah never intends to break you down, He wants to strengthen you, teach you things you would have never learnt if things had continued to run smooth ,refine your faith and do what is BEST for you in His own subtle ways. So rest assured, the matters of your life are in safe hands. Calm down, clear your head off from nasty thoughts , read this and rethink!
Oh Allaah why does it have to be like that?:
The moment Allaah issues His decree on us and we pass through events of catastrophic nature,many of us become hopeless and even faithless.Our spontaneous reaction on being tested or afflicted by a calamity usually is,we start questioning Allah, ”Oh Allah WHY? why did it happen to me? of all why only me?. This is usually phase one,followed by more phases. Let’s go through these phases and learn a few things, insha’Allaah.
In the initial phase, right at the onset of distress, Shaitaan comes with all the bad stuff and ideas,constantly whispering them to us and mainly through Shubhaat that is doubts continues to lead us in despair . Since we are in a weak position so like a perfect enemy Shaitaan makes his move and throws his arrows and spears . Therefore it’s here where we need real strength and Emaan to retaliate.
Allah says in Surah Baqarah – Ayah 155 and 156 that He tests His servants with fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits and in the next verse He mentions the quality of His believing slaves by giving them the title ‘As sabireen’ (the patient). These are the ones who in their phase one, right after being afflicted say; “Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.”. Just ponder over the Emaan of these people,despite being distressed they immediately realize that Allah has given them everything and He has the power to take those bounties whenever He wishes.Therefore they show their contentment with Allah’s decree. This is ar rida anillah azzawajal it means to be pleased with Allah, to believe strongly that His wisdom is infinite and He does what is best for us and we’re not to question Him as He says in Surah Ambiyaah – Ayah 23: ”He cannot be questioned as to what He does, while they will be questioned”
Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said: “The greatest reward comes with the greatest trial. When Allaah loves a people He tests them. Whoever accepts that wins His pleasure but whoever is discontent with that earns His wrath.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2396; Ibn Maajah, 4031; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
Therefore whenever any unpleasant thing happens to us we must patiently endure and utter innalillahi wa innailaihi rajioon and console ourselves by relying on Allah’s wisdom and the good that results from it.We should also make Du’aa to Allah to reward us in our patience and compensate the loss with something better; ”Allahuma jurni fee museebati wakhlufli khairam minha”. O Allah compensate me for my loss and give me what is better than it.
Under such situations there are people who suffer a marked decrease in their Emaan levels, they get so caught up in their grief that they miss their Salah,they turn lazy towards Deen and remembrance of Allaah. While Allaah says in Ayah 45 in Surah Baqarah: ”seek help in patience and prayer”. That is why our prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) would pray because it provides comfort and helps during mishaps and adversities. Salah establishes a direct link with Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta’alaa) , it’s when u can talk to him, you can weep to Him as He’s always there for His slaves.
Hudhayfah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said “Whenever the matter became serious the Prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) would pray. (Collected by Abu Dawud (1319) and others. Graded as being Hasan by Shaykh Al-Albani).
Exercise self-control by avoiding violence and self-induced hysteria:
Patience also entails that one remain as calm as possible on being struck by misfortune and doesn’t inflict harm upon himself or others or the surrounding objects,which is the patience by body. Some people when misfortune hits them start shouting and tearing their clothes and get hysterical but later over a period of time they calm down. This is not patience in any way.
Once prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) was passing by a grave when he saw a woman who was doing what she should not be doing on death of her husband. So He (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) told her ittaqillah wasbiri; ‘be conscious of Allah and be patient’. To this she said ;”turn away from my face for you haven’t been afflicted with a calamity that I have been,so he just walked away. Later when she came to know that it was the prophet of Allah (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) ,she went to his house and told him that she didn’t know it was him. The prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) told her “Verily! patience is at first stroke of calamity.”
For how long will things be like that?
In yet another phase,when the period of affliction prolongs to months or years,we give up hope and stop our supplications all together. This is usually when Allaah’s help is just around the corner.
Let us strengthen our Emaan by taking guidance from the beautiful story of Yusuf (‘Alaihi Salaam) .It was revealed in Aamul-Huzn (the year of sadness) for the emotional and moral support of the prophet Mohammad( sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam).So one can ponder over the verses of Surah Yusuf to get motivation and immense comfort, insha’ Allah. Yusuf (‘Alaihi Salaam) was a victim of maltreatment and abuse but it was His patience, perseverance and faith in Allah that led him from the darkness of well and gloom of the prison to a lofty status in Egypt. It was not merely a month but more than seven years of patience and endurance that yielded sweet rewards and the same brothers who plotted against him, went down into prostration before him, as a token of respect. Take lessons from Zakariyah (‘Alaihi Salaam) who turned old and his wife became barren yet he invoked hopefully by saying “… and never have I been in my supplication to You, my Lord, unhappy [i.e., disappointed].” [Surah Maryam – Ayah 3]
In the hereafter the patient ones will be taken to paradise without any reckoning while others will be terrified about their hisaab as Allah says in Surah Zumar – Ayah 10:
Say: “…Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in full, without reckoning.”
The term used here is Beghairi Hisaab, some interpreters say Bighairi Hisaab means: the amount of deeds you’ve done in this life wouldn’t deserve the status that you will be in paradise .
In Surah Baqarah – Ayah 157 Allaah assures the Saabireen of His blessings,forgiveness,mercy and guidance.
Those who are patient are rewarded with ‘Maiyatullaah that is ‘the company of Allaah’ and ‘HubbAllaah-love of Allaah’ as Allaah says in Surah Baqarah and Surah Aal ‘Imraan:
”innallaaha ma’as saabireen – indeed Allaah is with those who’re patient.” (2:156)
” innallaaha yuhibbus saabireen – ‘verily Allaah loves those who’re patient.” (3:146)
Stop nagging people and complain to Allaah alone:
Many a times we keep complaining about our misfortunes to the people,rather in more accurate terms to the Created beings who would show indifference, no signs of mercy ,when we should be approaching our Creator who has an infinite amount of Mercy for us. Therefore,when it comes to patience it applies to tongue also.One can be patient by his tongue by not complaining to other than Allaah and this is the meaning of Subrun Jameel, the beautiful patience. The prophet (sal Allaahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said when he was asked; “its patience by which you don’t complain” and of course the meaning here is we should complain to only Allah and not His Created beings as we see Yaqoob as in Surah Yusuf – Ayah 86. said: “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allaah”.
Just hold on to hope in Allaah and don’t despair:
If you’re being tested,so were the prophets,the righteous people of the past but they clung to their faith more strongly.Allaah says:
” Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: “We believe,” and will not be tested. . And We indeed tested those who were before them. “ (Surah Ankaboot – Ayah 2 and 3)”
No matter how your distress aggravates,just carry on,for it’s only disbelievers who lose hope in Allah’s Mercy.
”Certainly no one despairs of Allaah’s mercy, except the people who disbelieve.’‘ (Surah Yusuf – Ayah 87)
For how many years did Ibrahim (‘Alaihi Salaam) hold his hope in Allaah when he prayed for a son ? Zakariya (‘Alaihi Salaam). too had to wait for a long time but they did not give up hopes in Allaah. So ask yourselves this question: ‘should I give up so easily?’
Supplications for Depression
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah
In al-Saheehayn it was reported from Ibn ‘Abbaas that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when he felt distressed:
“La ilaaha ill-Allaah al-‘Azeem ul-Haleem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb il-‘arsh il-‘azeem, Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah Rabb is-samawaati wa Rabb il-ard wa Rabb il-‘arsh il-kareem.”
Translation: “There is no god except Allaah, the All-Mighty, the Forbearing; there is no god except Allaah, the Lord of the Mighty Throne; there is no god except Allaah, Lord of the heavens, Lord of the earth and Lord of the noble Throne).”
And it was reported from Anas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to say, when something upset him:
“Yaa Hayyu yaa Qayyoom, bi Rahmatika astagheeth.”
Translation: “O Ever-Living One, O Everlasting One, by Your mercy I seek help.”
And it was reported that Asmaa’ bint ‘Umays (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to me: “Shall I not teach you some words to say when you feel distressed?”
“Allaah, Allaah, Rabbee laa ushriku bihi shay’an.”
Translation: “Allaah, Allaah, my Lord, I do not associate anything with Him.”
It was reported from ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“No person suffers any anxiety or grief, and says: “‘Allaahumma innee ‘abduka wa ibn ‘abdika wa ibn amatika, naasiyati bi yadika, maadin fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka, as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘andak an taj’ala al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi.”
Translation: O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every Name belonging to You which You named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety.”
“…but Allaah will take away his sorrow and grief, and give him in their stead joy.”
[Al-Kalim al-Tayyib by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah, edited by Shaykh al-Albaani, p. 72]
By Umm ‘Aisha
I am sensitive! This is what I thought of myself before learning Quran. Whenever someone hurt me, smirked at me, whenever they ignored me, my love, my sacrifices, whenever they mocked, ridiculed and flattered me! I was sensitive enough to waste my days and nights thinking, crying and cursing myself, blaming others that they don’t value my intense feelings for them!
I thought it was the soft heart from ALLAH, which makes me this touchy. Though it hindered my functionality but it also drew me closer to Al-Wadud! And after a long painful journey He made me read His words, and learn the realities of life through His love. And I learnt the ultimate reality behind relations, that it was never “You, They and Them” that hurt me; it was “Me, I and Myself” that hurt me! It was not their attitude that broke my heart; it was my weakness that it broke! It was not their fault that they cheated me; it was my fault that I trusted them more than trusting ALLAH! It was not their harshness that caused me insomnia, but my inability to take them as humans, who are nothing but to err!
And I still believe that “I am Sensitive”.
I am sensitive for the feelings of my people! I am sensitive for the pains they bear! I am sensitive to what wrong people are doing with their lives! I am sensitive if people are committing sins and ending into Hell fire forever or if they are earning the pleasure of their Lord! I am sensitive if my words and actions hurt them or make them smile!
And I don’t experience any insomnias, depressions and broken hearts now! I only enjoy my tears that may wipe away my misdeeds and help me become a better human, a better Muslim and a real help for all other sensitive people out there!
By Bint Salman
Have you gone through a traumatic phase in life which was followed by: lingering grief , changed appetite, sleep disturbances, lackof concentration and focus, irritability, restlessness, lethargy, low esteem, lack of self-worth? If so, then these are all the symptoms of depression. But look at the bright side: ‘Depression is treatable with a good success rate’
Find a way to normalcy:
Symptoms of depression can be alleviated through guidance from the Quran and Sunnah. Below are a few tips:
– Bowing to the will of Allah, with belief in Qadar:
Belief in predestination is one of the articles of faith. You should firmly believe that all good and bad comes from Allaah and once your conviction is strong you’ll learn to negotiate your circumstances no matter how hopeless you feel about your situation. This belief will assure you that your Lord has done what is best for you and this attitude helps you to be content and happy with Allah’s will. Allah’s plans are perfect, not an affliction befalls a believer but His sins are wiped out if he patiently endures. Allaah says;
‘Whatever misfortune happens to you is because of the things your hands have wrought and for many (of them) He grants forgiveness.’ (42:30)
‘No affliction great or small afflicts a man but for a sin, but there are more which Allah forgives’. (Tirmidhi)
Dhikrullaah- A potent Anti-Depressant:
Make Allaah’s dhikr by following ways:
–By reciting Qura’an and contemplating over its verses;
Remembering Allaah by reciting Quraan while reflecting over its meanings grants peace and tranquility to the heart as Allah says: ”Verily in the remembrance of Allaah do hearts finds rest”: (13:28)
Not only it gives us certain guidelines on how to be steadfast on the face of calamities also It becomes a source of motivation for us and strengthens our imaan and hope in Allaah’s mercy , especially when we come across certain stories like the story of Yusuf and Ayub (‘Alayhimussalaam).
Yusuf’s (‘Alaihysalaam) only son was separated from him ,but he didn’t despair the mercy of Allah and left a wonderful & most powerful advice for us. The Quran highlights it as:
”Certainly no one despairs of Allah’s Mercy, except the people who disbelieve.” (12:87).
Ayub (‘Alaihysalaam)) who was left without children and wealth when his health declined miserably and his body got diseased all over remained patient and didn’t utter a word of thanklessness to his Lord but sweetly invoked:
‘’Verily, distress has seized me, and You are the Most Merciful of all those who show mercy.” (21:83)
At places the Quran gives us incentives by reminding us of the sweet out come of enduring with patience . Allaah says;
“But give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Those who say, when afflicted with calamity, ‘To Allah we belong, and to Him is our return.’ They are those on whom descend blessings from their Lord, and mercy. They are the ones who receive guidance.” (2:155-157)
–Invocations for morning and evening:
Constantly invoke Allaah, in the morning and in the evening. Among the invocations for morning and evening there are duas for sorrow and anxiety. One of them is;
Allaahuma ini aodubika minah hame wal huzne wal ajzi wal kaslee wad dala id daine wa qahririjaal.
O Allah, I take refuge in You from anxiety and sorrow, weakness and laziness, miserliness and cowardice, the burden of debts and from being over powered by men. Ameen
Especial invocation for grief:
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “If a person who is afflicted by anxiety or sorrow says: ‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka wa ibnu ‘abdika wa ibn ammatika naasiyati bi yadika maadin fiyya hukmuka ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka as’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw asta’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghaybi ‘indaka an taj’al al-Quraana rabee’a qalbi wa noora sadri wa jalaa’a huzni wa dhahaaba hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your female slave, my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You with which You have named Yourself, or, or You have taught to any of Your creation, or You have revealed in Your Book, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety)’, then Allaah will take away his anxiety and sorrow, and will replace it with joy.
Remember the way to sakinah is through obeying Allaah Subhanahu watalaa .When a person does not follow the commands of Allah, his chest becomes constrained, he gets encircled by a discomfort zone .Outwardly he might seem to be enjoying the material blessings of this worldly life but inwardly he loses peace, tranquility and happiness.
Allah Subahnau wa talaa says :
”And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed, he will have a depressed life, and We will gather him on the Day of Resurrection blind.”( 20:124)
Sinning causes a soul to wander in agitation. It may be a consequence of our sins that we feel bad and irritable. Despite that, Allaah is so Merciful ,He has shown us the way to drop the burden of sins by means of repentance. It’s one of the tricks of shaitaan that he makes us feel that our sin due to its magnitude is unpardonable. We are humans bound to sin but if one sincerely repents, Allaah forgives all His major and minor sins. The repentance should be sincere, pure repentance ‘Taubatun nasooh”,that one should make a sincere repentance, he should feel guilty of his wrongdoing and he should resolve never to repeat that sin. After a person repents and performs more good deeds the constricting force starts releasing on him and he is granted thorough peace and satisfaction.
-Shukr Brings Contentment:
When you learn to value those blessings of Allah , you will develop the attitude of a grateful person. Prophet (Sal Allaahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said:
The Prophet, salla Allahu ‘alayhi wassalam, said: ‘Wealth is not in having vast riches, it is in contentment.’ (Bukhari, Muslim)
Even if you don’t have anything but a pair of eyes, ears, limbs you should be grateful to Allaah .You only realize the value of something when you lose it, look at those who’re blind, deaf and cripple and thank Allah. Indeed thanking Allah is a blessing itself , Dawood AS used to invoke Allah:
‘O Allah! how can I thank you enough when thanking you is also a blessing’
Jot down a list of all the things you are blessed with and ponder over the fact that what would happen if you lose them all.
–Developing good Interpersonal skills:
Learning good skills in dealing with people takes a person on the road to happiness and triumph. There is no person on Earth who doesn’t like to be respected, adored and held in high esteem. The best way to develop good interpersonal skills is by studying the seerah of our beloved prophet pbuh and emulating it. Learn and incorporate those effective ways in your life which our he pbuh adopted to tackle with people possessing different personalities and natures. Learn the manners he taught and make them your second nature. Show people your care, concern and love and believe me you will be dumbfounded at what you receive in return. Engage in community service, lend your help to the ones in plight, this will help you move past your own plight and depression.
-Have a bowl of Talbinah daily:
Talbinah is actually barley soup which is one of the prophetic medicines. Ayesha (Radhi Allaahu ‘Anha) would recommend the grieving and sick women to have it.
Ayesha would say (to the women), “Eat, for I heard the Messenger (peace be upon him) saying, ‘The Talbina soothes the heart of the patient and relieves him from some of his sadness.’” (Al-Bukhari, no. 5690)
In another Hadith the Prophet (Sal Allaahu ‘Alaihi Wasallam) said:
The Messenger (peace be upon him) said, “I encourage you to use (Talbina) which is disliked, but is beneficial. By the One in whose Hand Muhammad’s soul is, it cleans your stomach just as water cleans dirt from the face.” (Mustadrak of Hakim, no. 7455, Adh-Dhahabi declared it Sahih)
Recipe for Talbina:
Talbina is made by adding one or two tablespoon of barley flour in one and a half cups of water and mixed homogeneously till it dissolves in water. It is then kept over the flame and constantly stirred till it thickens. Have it by adding a little honey and milk.
A few other tips:
-Exercise daily for 20-30 mins: this helps relieve stress to some extent and provides relaxation to the body. During exercise the chemicals ‘endorphins’ are released which elevate the mood. Exercise leaves positive impact on sleep and behavior..
-Fast: Alright, you do it for the sake of Allah but it not only gives you reward but some other extra benefits: fasting also triggers release ‘endorphins’ which give a feeling of ‘well- being’.
-Take foods that beat stress: Google out a list of foods which fight stress and include them in your diet list.
By Bint Salman
Certain essential requirements before going out (According to many females)
1) A nice low cut outfit, or at least a tight fitting one.
2) Lip gloss, eyeliner, mascara, illuminator cosmetics.
3) Hair styling
…4,5,6,7,8…….you name it !
Is it mandatory to have these before going out or have you imposed them as a necessity on yourself just to gain acceptance from society?
Well! don’t you think life is something more than just dabbing glosses so that you could display your beauty in public, rather in more accurate terms your na-mahram which include the offenders who sit eagerly in wait to catch their prey whenever they get a chance to or those lustful eyes which scrutinize with lust each and every part of your body.
Can’t you separate the truth from falsehood? Have you tried to lift the veil of ignorance from your eyes and see the truth behind all the mess these liberalists have put you in?.
Under the slogan of liberation , these so called ‘advocates of freedom’ advertise enough to inspire the female masses in becoming a slave to their modernistic rather misleading ideologies Resultantly every girl wants to blindly do everything that’s ‘ in vogue’ irrespective of whether her religion permits her or not.
It’s not prohibited to dress up nicely , wear make up or perfume but under the bounds of shariah, only in front of mahrams, but unfortunately many Muslim sisters don’t understand now a days.
Liberation or pseudo-liberation?
Those women who dress up immodestly in public, with their dresses revealing all the minute details of their bodies are considered modern, in this progressing world while those who wear the veil, who guard their modesty are looked as ‘extremists’, bunch of backward folks . Keeping aside all the materialistic standards of liberation,lets open our minds to think.
Is it freedom that a girl is programmed into fulfilling all these self-imposed requirements before going out? Is it liberty as these seculars claim? Is it not disagreeable that a girl has to appear before men beautified, virtually naked or in see through and skimpy outfits? each time before leaving for work she has to wear a knee length skirt and put on makeup even if it’s -7 degrees or she’s allergic to cosmetics.She has been put to oppression in such a fashion where she lives in deception of being under liberation. It’s the worst form of slavery when she voluntarily presents herself to be taken advantage of, to be played brutally at the hands of men as an object worst than animals.
On the contrary Islam liberates women,elevates their status, encourages them to guard their modesty by covering themselves before appearing in public. A Muslimah thinks open-mindedly and chooses to obey her Creator, therefore Hijaab becomes a symbol of her conviction.It’s not me or any Muslim clergyman commanding Muslim sisters to wear hijaab but Allaah (Subhaanahu wa Ta’aala) commands the believing women in Surah Noor verse 31 and Ahzab verse 59:
” And tell the believing women to lower their gaze, and protect their private parts and not to show off their adornment except that which is apparent, and to draw their veils all over their Juyub and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their women, or their right hand possessions, or the Tabi`in among men who do not have desire, or children who are not aware of the nakedness of women. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful.” (Noor:31)
In surah Ahzaab Allaah says:
” O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their Jalabib (outer garment larger than headscarf) over their bodies. That will be better that they should be known so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
Whom does this divine law benefit?
It’s usually an unbelievable situation when one knows a certain thing is of benefit to him/her yet doesn’t allow himself/herself to be benefited by it. Whom does wearing hijaab benefit? Does it benefit Allaah in any way? Certainly not!. It benefits none other then the one who wears it.
Firstly it distinguishes the believing women from disbelieving counterparts and dignifies them which is really charming in and off itself. It gives them deep sense of self-respect and confidence in faith.
Secondly Hijaab protects the women from molesters,rapists, sexual offenders ,exactly the way a precious thing is hidden and protected from all hazards.The way pearls lie deep down in the ocean hidden in their oysters, and the diamonds in mines, likewise a Muslimah is made precious like by enjoining this law upon her so that her dignity remains intact.
Define your real goal in life my dear sister in Islam:
My dear Muslim sisters,if you claim to be Muslim women then why do you find it hard to submit,when being a Muslim means one has submitted to the will of his/her Creator. Has not your Creator commanded you to cover yourself up completely from head to toe, if not face and hands then at lest the rest of yourself in front all the namahram males? Is this command so difficult to obey?.
Do you know your real ambition in life should be to worship the Creator and not His Creations.This is the very purpose of your Creation as Allaah says in Surah Zarayaat:
”And I created not the Jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me” (51:56)
So don’t ignore the call of your inner nature (fitrah) which wants you to worship Allaah, to obey Him in all spheres of life.Don’t allow the deceivers to delude you into indulging in indecency and making it your only aim in life .You must abandon all the other trivial goals which lie in contradiction with the real goal of worshiping Allaah or all those distractions which take you away from chasing it.If you focus only and only on achieving it, then it will lead you to a life of happiness,bliss and tranquility.
Dear sister, don’t delay for death can overtake you anytime, would you like to die in disobedience?.Don’t be hesitant, don’t let shaitaan deceive you, for he is your open enemy and it pleases him when bashfulness leaves you because it is a branch of faith and according to an authentic hadith Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Indeed haya (modesty) and Iman are Companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well.” (Baihaqi)
Don’t lose your emaan by your own hands.Don’t fear people and this society where immorals are taught more cleverly than morals and remember Allaah’s promise:
”And whoever follows My guidance,there shall be no fear on them,nor shall they grieve” (2:38)